sacred spaces for relationships

Some spaces are just sacred, whether we treat them as such or not. And, while we all SAY it’s important to limit our screen time and choose times and places safe from the interruption of our devices… not many of us are doing it. Perhaps that’s because, although we acknowledge the danger, we don’t see it. Take … Read more

six relational friction reducers

relational friction

In relationships, we understand that opposites attract. We think, “Hey, you’re intriguing and interesting to me.” Then after we get to know each other, and have been together for a year or two- or get married- those opposites can attack! What was cute when we were dating may become caustic if we’re not careful. There … Read more

when life hurts that much

when life hurts

(This is the introduction to my book, Dungeon Times Survival Guide. It’s available on this site as a hard copy, and on Amazon for the Kindle version.) Life doesn’t go according to plan. It’s just no fun when things don’t work out the way you want them to, is it? All of us have experienced … Read more

the one word that kills closeness

closeness killer

Remember that old singsong saying about sticks and stones breaking bones? Yeah, I don’t buy it. I think it’s an outright lie. Words hurt. Often. They even hurt others when we weren’t trying. So class, today’s word is one of those “lazy” words we may say often without giving it a thought. It’s just one … Read more

three truths to help heal your hurting relationship

relationship rescue

As Jeff turned his car into the neighborhood after another long dreary, commute, his already tense neck and shoulders drew even tighter as he envisioned walking in the door and having to deal with his wife, Sandy. “It will be another long night of hearing her litany of criticisms, all the things I’m not doing … Read more